Love….., or Not




What about the word LOVE !  What does that word mean in contemporary society.  Is it just another meaningless throwaway word now?

Let’s look at the formal definition from the dictionary…


love: noun:

1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.  2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.

3. sexual passion or desire.  4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
love: verb  (used with object)
15. to have love or affection for: All her pupils love her.  16. to have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for (another person).  17. to have a strong liking for; take great pleasure in: to love music.  18. to need or require; benefit greatly from: Plants love sunlight.  19. to embrace and kiss (someone), as a lover.
The dictionary definition seems to point to the idea that love is an attachment to, an affection for, a passion or desire for…, a person, be that person a family member, a lover, a friend.  In today’s world I so often hear:  “I love chocolate…, I love that dress…, I love that car…, don’t you just love those paintings…, we love this house.  None of these articles is a person! It’s just a thing.  It can’t respond to or return your love.
I like chocolate.  I like a great car.  I admire a great painting, and I really like my house – but I don’t LOVE them.  I love my family.  I love my friends.  I even love my cat, but these are all living entities that can, in some manner (if they’re so disposed), return those feelings.  I don’t think I’ve ever been kissed by a chocolate bar.  The house has never hugged me.  And no matter how wonderful it may be, no painting has ever whispered sweet nothings in my ear, so why do we speak of them in terms of “loving” them.  Have we lost contact with the idea that love is an emotion that is to be shared with someone and transferred that emotion to inanimate things?
Today I said “I love you” to a Hershey bar and, you know, it just layed there on the counter.  I said that same thing to my grandson and guess what?  He hugged me and said “I love you too, Grandpa”.  I think that if we concentrated on loving the people in our lives more and the things in our lives less, we’d be so much happier, as individuals, as families, and as communities.  Isn’t it worth a try???
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I love you…, all of you !

(You know, that was pretty easy…, and it felt good too)

8 thoughts on “Love….., or Not

  1. Such an interesting topic Paul ~ I use the word love quite freely – it feels good – it feels right so I don’t withhold. I am a person who loves — I wasn’t raised to be someone who professes love as much as I do — but I think of love as spirit and goodness and “what the world needs now” ~ 🙂 Yes – people get to have my love before chocolate ~ but I admit – i love chocolate – an trees, and seas etc. too ~ you are the best — LOVE TO YOU dear friend ~ Robyn

    1. Was never meant to chide the use of the word, Robyn, just wanted to reassert the importance of it. Thanks for your gentle words. Yours is an important friendship.

      1. I know – but it was great and intriguing for me to think about this because I often wonder (even in blog post responses) if it’s crazy that i am so comfortable with this whole expression of love. To me seeing love is seeing goodness, Divinity, light … so I look for it and offer it so naturally, and sincerely wherever I feel it. I thank you for inspiring me to reflect on this… And now I must go find some chocolate — don’t love Hershey but Cadbury from the UK is pretty yummy!! x R

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